BlogHer: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly
First let me start off by saying that I had an amazing, wonderful, fantabulous time in Chicago. Fantabulous is totally a word, and if you’re one of the people who had a hand in getting me there, you’re super special fantabulous. For reals. So, thank you.
The good FAR outweighs the bad and the ugly, but I felt as if I needed to address all three. Because, you know, what fun is it to read a post where someone gushes about something. It’s really quite boring. The gory details are what everyone wants, and the gory details are what everyone shall get.
So…let’s begin! *claps hands in excitement*
The Good
- Getting to spend Wednesday in LA with Heather and Mike.
- Having dinner with Jayneoni, who is fantabulous in her own right.
- The awesome people on the Party Plane.
- The crew of our Southwest flight to Chicago, who graciously put up with us.
- Katie, who I became “close” friends with on the limo ride to the hotel.
- Roaming Chicago with my friend Fran.
- Seeing people I’ve missed since last July. Like Amy, Jennifer, Shannon, Dawn, Lotus, Gudrun, Loralee & Leslie.
- Seeing people I saw in April, but having this be happier circumstances. Like VDog, Tanis, Rachel, Shannon, Maya, Maura & Anissa.
- Spending time with other fantabulous people, whether I’d met them before or not. Like Renee, Jen, Greis, Stacey, Issa, Kirstin, Yvonne, Stefanie, Marinka, Brittany & Janet.
- Meeting so many other fabulous people I can’t even link to them all or I’ll never get this posted.
- Seeing lightning and hearing THUNDER!!! Even if it only happened once.
- Some people are JUST like their online persona.
- Some people are NOT AT ALL like their online persona.
- Getting my hair did by Anna, the super fantabulous stylist at the Suave booth.
- The #SuperSecretPizzaParty. Which will hopefully be a yearly event.
- Feeling comfortable enough in my own blogging skin that I didn’t feel like I had to pretend to like people I don’t
- Feeling comfortable enough in my own blogging skin that I didn’t feel like I had to impress anyone
- Feeling comfortable enough to spend time concentrating on the people I WANTED to see, and not on the ones the internet tells me I should hang out with. Because, you know, they’re the “cool” ones.
The Bad
- The “Water Situation.” I bitched about this A LOT this weekend. As someone who used to plan corporate events for a fancy schmancy hotel, I was ridiculously disappointed with the lack of water available to conference attendees. I totally get the effort to save the world of many a plastic bottle that would need to be recycled. But for future reference BlogHer event planners, put reusable water bottles in our bags. Brand them. The attendees will use them, and BELIEVE ME, it will be appreciated.
- The fact that the hotel provided bottled water at the parties and charged people for it. That’s what pitchers and glasses are for, assholes.
- Holding a conference for internet addicted people at a hotel that doesn’t have wifi in the guest rooms. Duh.
- #NikonHatesBabies is the stupidest fucking thing I’ve ever heard. It’s unfortunate that the guest limitations weren’t clearly stated to attendees, but REALLY? Saying Nikon hates babies because the fancy BAR at which they held their event has a 21 & over policy? Ridiculous.
- The pictures I’ve seen of myself need to be shine corrected. Good lord my forehead is shiny.
- I missed seeing/meeting a bunch of people I wanted to. Boo.
- I didn’t get to spend NEARLY enough time with everyone I wanted to. I propose that we schedule at LEAST a week in NYC next year. We can sleep 10 to a room if we have to. For reals.
- I missed seeing Paula Deen. Dammit. I love her.
- I missed the Vaginally Challenged Bloggers session. I can roll my eyes with the best of ‘em.
- The DRAMA. Because HOLY HELL people, are we 15 year old hormonal teenage girls, or are we grown ass women? Sometimes I wonder.
- Some people are JUST like their online persona.
- Some people are NOT AT ALL like their online persona.
- Some people don’t understand that the world doesn’t revolve around them. And every situation isn’t about YOU.
- The fact that the saying “With friends like these, who needs enemies?” popped into the conversation, and into my head, on numerous occasions.
The Ugly
- The disgusting behavior, exhibited by a few select people, when it came to procuring swag. It’s free crap people. Not diamonds or cash. And even if it were, your behavior would still be objectionable.
- The backlash against those of us who got free swag. In an orderly fashion, of course. Once again, it’s free crap people. Get over it. If it wasn’t something I would use, I didn’t take it. If it was in a bag and it wasn’t something I would use, I gave it away. I’m not going to apologize for taking a free one time use sample of laundry detergent, or sample size jars of play-doh for my kids. I’m also not a whore for doing it. So, #alohahard and get over yourselves.
- Some people are JUST like their online persona.
- Some people are NOT AT ALL like their online persona.
I was lucky in that I was a removed party from all the drama. I witnessed some of it firsthand, heard of some of it from involved parties and read about some of it on the interwebz. I suppose it’s to be expected when you get 1,500 people together for anything. Especially when the majority of the people are women. There were no knock down, drag out fights, though I heard there were ALMOST a few. Which, really, I would have loved to see and would have totally taken me back to standing in the hallway at high school while two girls went at it. And not in THAT way, perverts. Also? If there HAD been a fight, I may or may not have picked a favorite and cheered silently from the sidelines. You’ll never know.
Overall, I had a FABULOUS time in Chicago. Come hell or high water, I’ll be in New York next year. I’m going to take MochaMomma’s advice and start saving now. I suggest you do too! Trust me, you won’t want to miss out on ALL the fun!
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rachel-asouthernfairytale on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:21 am #
Great post.
You, were fantastic to hang out with. I adore you.
Ummm my post didn’t gush exactly but… umm yah.
I am completely on board with the water thing.. It WAS SO HARD to get water.
I’m saving my pennies and quarters NOW!!!!
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Shannanb aka Mommy Bits on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:22 am #
B.E.S.T. BLOGHER RECAP YET! More evidense of your awesomeness.
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nic @mybottlesup on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:23 am #
i’m in for ‘10 and MUST see you.
that’s all.
oh yeah, and well said…
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Miss on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:23 am #
A-fucking-MEN girl. Pretty sure you’re one of my favorite people around these here internets. Partly because we are super great at sharing hugs and exchanging eye rolls.
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VDog on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:23 am #
FUCK YES WOMAN!!!
Love. This. Post.
Can’t wait to see you again.
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Mrs. Flinger on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:26 am #
Yeeeaaaa. Just? Yeeaaaa. You, my darling, were everything I thought and more. I’m EXACTLY like my online persona. As are you, babe. Genuine. Lovely. YOU.
Next time let’s actually hang out some. I regret that a lot. Oh, fuckthat, I’ll come see y’all in person. We gotzta hangz! XOXO
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Sam@My A-Cup Runneth Over on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:26 am #
I love you a little bit right now.
That is all.
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DesignHER Momma on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:27 am #
I too had a fab time. Was very excited to meet you! Saving up for next year – see you there!
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gorillabuns on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:28 am #
what would women be if there weren’t loads of drama a little bitch-slapping?
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Shash on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:30 am #
Wished I could have had more time to chat with you. What I did discover is you are awesome 24/7. Next time we must spend more time together.
Great post. Ya’all keep this up and my post will be two words!
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Jenny from Mommin' It Up! on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:30 am #
Awesome recap, Meghan, and everything very well said! (You dirty play-doh takin’ whore.) I LOVED meeting you and getting to hang out for a little bit! Hope to see you again sooner than latah!
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Lori on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:34 am #
It sounds like everyone had a great time at BlogHer ‘09. Even though I didn’t go, I am enjoying reading the posts of those who did. Thank you for sharing!
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perksofbeingme on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:36 am #
I luff you and I’m so glad I got to see you again under happier circumstances. Love this post. xoxo
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Pocklock on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:48 am #
I didn’t get to meet you this year and that stinks, but I couldn’t agree more with everything you said.
I grabbed my own water bottle on my way to the airport though and whenever I saw a cooler in one of the meeting rooms, I filled up. However, even WITH all that forward thinking on my part (which seriously NEVER happens), I did not drink nearly enough water as I should have and came home thinking that I needed an IV.
Hope to meet you next year in NYC!
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Lara on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:02 am #
I love you, I loved seeing you, and I am now wondering how much I am or am not like my online persona.
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EmmieJ on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:11 am #
You rock. Not that you didn’t already know that. I miss you already. When are you coming up here again?
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Lex - @laprimera on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:18 am #
You said it all perfectly! Loves you much!!!
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Katie@DomesticDebacle on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:21 am #
Love the post!! Can’t wait for 2010, and the chance to meet you!
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EatPlayLove on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:23 am #
I have to admit, I’d like this post better if you included just a few linky-loos to the “JUST like or NOT AT ALL like” their online persona folks. Cause, I’m nosy like that.
Sounds like you had a fun time. NYC might be my year.
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Jamie on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:46 am #
I am so glad that you had a good time and enjoyed yourself.
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Issa on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:47 am #
I am kinda laughing that your number one on the bad list was the water, cause I bitched about it all dang weekend. Also, I kept paying for water from the gift shop and I still feel like my skin is falling off.
So, uh can we go back now? I think a week sounds awesome, although then I’d just need more time to sleep after the fact.
and wait, Paula Deen was there and I MISSED HER??? There was just so much to do, so many people to meet and I know I missed out on meeting a ton.
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Janet on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:48 am #
Ditto, ditto, ditto and DITTO. So glad we got to know each other beyond the AL list. I fucking adore you and love the way you think! XOXO
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Jennifer Taggart, TheSmartMama on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:48 am #
Great recap. It was awesome to be on the party plane with you and everybody else.
I was part of the Green Team for BlogHer to eliminate plastic water bottles, but I too was frustrated with how hidden the water cisterns were, and how impossible it was to tell where the glasses were to use those water cisterns. So, I’m taking all the complaints to heart and will raise them should I have the privilege of being on the BlogHer Green Team again. And even if I’m not, I’m still reporting in on what worked and what didn’t this year . . .
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jenB on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:48 am #
Yes, yes yes, expect my people that I met and loved list is a little different.
I have been to every BlogHer and this was, but far, my favourite. Although next year I obviously have to spend some time with you because you are obviously awesome.
jennui
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AmazingGreis on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:55 am #
Love this post.
Love YOU!
The water situation was HORRIBLE. Meeting you was AWESOME!!!
I’m definitely making plans for a trip to NYC next year and I’m totally up for staying a while longer, because I love the city.
XOXO
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Amanda on 28 Jul 2009 at 10:56 am #
I am allowing the past to have the good shine brighter than the bad. And in 2010, looking forward to more good!
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Samantha Gianulis on 28 Jul 2009 at 11:01 am #
I think you’re brilliant. Peace.
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cindy w on 28 Jul 2009 at 11:04 am #
Um, yes. All of this post. Just YES.
I’m still jealous about the #supersecretpizzaparty. I spent 3 days in Chicago and didn’t have a single slice of pizza, nevermind Chicago-style deep dish. I feel thoroughly cheated by that.
I loved-loved-LOVED getting to meet you. You were one of my favorite people of the weekend just because you were like “eh, I don’t like her” whenever a couple of bloggers’ names came up, and I love that you were so honest & up front about it. Most people wouldn’t have the nerve. Also, you’re like a hundred times prettier in real life (you know, compared to your cartoon image up there or your tiny Twitter avatar). So fun. Can’t wait to see you next year in NYC!
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Maya on 28 Jul 2009 at 11:07 am #
You missed a good: Getting to sleep next to me.
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punkinmama on 28 Jul 2009 at 11:19 am #
Bravo! I was so frustrated with everyone talking about all the drama – made me glad to not be a part of it. Finally a post that puts it into perspective and reminds people that we’re grown-ass women! How do so many forget this?
Anyway, I really, really, really hope to make it to NYC next year to meet you and other awesome people!
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melissa/bostonmama79 on 28 Jul 2009 at 11:24 am #
you are a riot
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McCashew on 28 Jul 2009 at 11:52 am #
I chose not to address any of the bad/ugly because I didn’t think I could do it justice and because I knew that someone else IE YOU would put it all together into a perfect package, and you totally did. Hope I get to meet you next year.
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Overflowing Brain (Katie) on 28 Jul 2009 at 12:01 pm #
Loved this. You captured it beautifully. And dude, super secret New York style pizza is at the top of my 2010 to do list.
(Also, lest it came off like I was calling those who got swag, swag whores, please please know that I meant the crazy people willing to kill for it…)
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DE Heather on 28 Jul 2009 at 12:08 pm #
So glad I got to meet you! Next year I hope to be around for the whole thing!
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Miss Grace on 28 Jul 2009 at 12:48 pm #
The water situation was seriously unacceptable. Seriously.
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Mocha on 28 Jul 2009 at 1:47 pm #
As is true with many other women I am saddened that you were one of the ones I missed spending time with and that must be rectified.
Rectified I say!
(Rectified sounds dirty. I’m giggling now. Like a 15 year old girl. And this is the ONLY time when it’s appropriate to reflect the behavior of a 15 year old girl.)
Next time you are required to just grab me by the back of the hair. That’s sorta the only way to get me to stop talking when I’m yakking in front of a group of people. I promise not to hurt you.
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Andrea's Sweet Life on 28 Jul 2009 at 2:00 pm #
You didn’t even link to me, and now I’m going to start DRAMA because it’s all about ME. ME, I SAY!
Love you : )
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anymommy on 28 Jul 2009 at 2:26 pm #
Darling, you were at the top of my ‘didn’t get to spend nearly enough time with her’ list. Someday, I’m coming to L.A. to force you to focus on ME, ME ME
Also, geez, as usual, I am clueless as drama swirls around me. Clue.less. But, I think I like it that way. xo
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Amy in OHio on 28 Jul 2009 at 2:50 pm #
love you lady – your forehead could be layered in crisco and I’d love you all the more for it
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Z on 28 Jul 2009 at 3:19 pm #
Um, YEAH, you are gonna be here next year!!!
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Linda B on 28 Jul 2009 at 3:20 pm #
No Water, No Wifi, No Paula Deen…damn girl thank goodness you are so awesomely awesome or it could have been really bad!
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heather... on 28 Jul 2009 at 3:22 pm #
Amy, her forehead IS layered in crisco. It’s how she stays looking so young.
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Mr Lady on 28 Jul 2009 at 3:58 pm #
It was lovely to see you again, dude.
{Also, you didn’t get a bright orange water bottle in your BlogHer bag at check in? I did, or maybe I’m on crack.
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Bridget on 28 Jul 2009 at 4:32 pm #
I was oblivious to all the swag drama until I read about it on teh interwebz. I’m kind of glad I’m out of the loop…
And I’m with ya on the water and the wifi. Those are two things I can’t live without!
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Maura ~ @MoBurns67 on 28 Jul 2009 at 4:58 pm #
Yes, to all of the above. Just YES.
You’re definitely making me think a little more positively about going to the 2010 one in NYC.
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Al_Pal on 28 Jul 2009 at 5:24 pm #
Great post.
Even though I’ve not been to a blogging con [yet], I have been to a few geeky cons, & yes, the congruency of people & their online personalities can be awesome, distressing, or simply interesting. ;p
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Joe @ IrrationalDad on 28 Jul 2009 at 7:41 pm #
“The Bad” was my favorite section!!!!
“Alohahard” was my favorite part of this entire post. I effing heart you!
http://www.nbc.com/Saturday_Night_Live/video/clips/hawaiian-hotel/1056148/
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Kirsten on 28 Jul 2009 at 8:21 pm #
Drama? What drama?? I am so out of the drama loop. I had a great time, but of course did not get to spend nearly enough time fawning over your Target jewelry. Next year in New York I am going to fawn all over you and your jewelry. I’ll even bring you a water bottle.
And I was annoyed with all the swag. The last thing I need is more stuff to carry home. The expo hall gave me a headache.
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Nanette on 28 Jul 2009 at 8:39 pm #
Nice post! Looking forward to hanging out with you next year! (Although I hope to see you in-person before then, my dear.)
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Patty on 28 Jul 2009 at 8:41 pm #
Loved this blog!! I so wish I could have been there and seen it all firsthand! Also would love to have met you! You seem like a totally cool chica!!!
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Kim @ Beautiful Wreck on 28 Jul 2009 at 8:42 pm #
Wow, another great post about the happenings.
There is a lot of vagueness about the drama tho.
I also agree with you about the situation with the Nikon Party.
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pamela on 28 Jul 2009 at 8:43 pm #
I loved your view of BlogHer. Maybe one day I’ll finally be able to meet you. youre totally awesome!
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pseudostoops on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:09 pm #
I brought an empty water bottle and still had trouble finding water to fill it with. I agree wholeheartedly with the water sitch. Drank way too much diet pepsi because it was wet and there.
Isn’t it so interesting how some people are just like their blogs, and some are totally different?
pseudostoops´s last blog ..Go-To Foods
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Insta-Mom on 28 Jul 2009 at 9:27 pm #
I am so bummed I wasn’t there this year. I’m even more bummed I already know that I can’t do NY next year. Aiming for 2011.
In the meantime, we live too damn close to each other not to meet up between now and then.
Insta-Mom´s last blog ..Depression redux
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la petite belle on 29 Jul 2009 at 3:42 am #
OMG! sounds fun but… wow, I can’t believe there was drama involved. Sounds like high school, kind of.
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Karen (@agentninety9) on 29 Jul 2009 at 5:23 am #
Sounds like it was an event to remember and I’m sorry I missed it. Drama and all…
I CAN’T WAIT to meet you in NYC! Please tell me you’ll make a little time for me?
Karen (@agentninety9)´s last blog ..Last Night Was An Epic Failure. (Or: I TRIED to Co-Host BlogHer@Home and all I got was this Lousy Hangover
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Issa on 29 Jul 2009 at 9:46 am #
Totally forgot to say (gah, when will my brain come back?) that I will need to come to BH10 just to try and spend more than ten minutes total with you.
Issa´s last blog ..My BlogHer09 experience
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Assertagirl on 30 Jul 2009 at 6:23 am #
Oh yeah, the saving up for NYC has already begun ’round these parts!
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Neena on 30 Jul 2009 at 11:18 am #
I totally enjoyed meeting you! And, I had a great time at our Hotel Steak dinner
)
Neena´s last blog ..Self Portrait
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Avitable on 30 Jul 2009 at 5:08 pm #
I don’t think our panel would have had you rolling your eyes. It sounds like you probably would have enjoyed it quite a bit, given your take on things and your sense of humor!
Avitable´s last blog ..Anatomy of a Post #BlogHer Avitable
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Tiaras & Tantrums on 30 Jul 2009 at 9:18 pm #
I was only able to attend on Fri – that is the bad for me – the good – I didn’t see any of the silly drama that I read about come Mon morning!
Tiaras & Tantrums´s last blog ..My Home Tour Cont
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jennifer, playgroups are no place for children on 03 Aug 2009 at 12:10 pm #
Next time you’re in TN, we’re having a mini-BlogHer, okay? I could probably round up some free swag from the bottom of my purse. I’ll totally be exactly like my online persona, or not.
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Gudrun on 03 Aug 2009 at 3:11 pm #
great to see you too, although it was not nearly long enough. We had some plan to have cocktails and frankly, there was just too much going on to make that happen. How about a virtual cocktail party? I will make my own drink (Pom Martini, or Watermelon Margarita) and you make one there and we plan to drink them at the same time. Or, barring that, I will drink mine and then tell you about it, you can drink yours and tell me about, and I then I will not want you to drink alone, so I will have another, and then you are probably going to be thirsty by then, so you will have another. I am sure we can kill 20-30 minutes, easy.
Gudrun´s last blog ..Menu Plan Monday: Tomatillos
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Texasholly on 07 Aug 2009 at 8:56 pm #
Crap. I so wanted to be the girl in the middle of the fist fight. I am strong and scrappy… But I would have needed water. definitely needed water.
Texasholly´s last blog ..Going to the carwash
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